KP and I once, a year or two ago, attempted to write a script together. It was a story we’d stumbled upon and we both liked the idea. I’d long before wanted to work on a project with him, as a way of building teamwork between us. Even if it never went anywhere, I just wanted the challenge doing it together.

We didn’t get very far into the process before giving up on that script, though, and giving up on the idea of working on any thing together. We just couldn’t do it. We had different ideas about the tone and theme of the story and instead of discussing and molding our individual ideas into something we could together be happy with – we argued about them instead. Just as we did about many other things in our lives at that time.

As the Gottman study I referenced in my Hindsight #2 post noted, when you and your spouse are in a “destroyer” relationship, no matter what you are doing together, you are constantly on edge, always prepared to fight and defend yourself. And unfortunately… Read more…

I have a strong feeling that I’m entering a phase of this blog where I won’t put as much focus on “providing content” as I will on “sharing a personal journey”. I hope I don’t lose readers because of that. But if I do, oh well.

For a little while, I’m going to steer toward journaling about a different adventure – though still in line with the main subject of this blog: Writing a Script With My Husband.

We’ve never worked together in this capacity before, and even so far, I’m noticing how it impacts our relationship and I’d like to write about that here. I’ll have to be a bit vague, of course, until Read more…